How to choose the best London BDSM Mistress

How to choose the best London BDSM Mistress

Choosing the best London BDSM Mistress

Where to start?

You want to book a session with a London BDSM Mistress. How do you know which one? There are so many to choose from. The list seems to change all the time, with new Mistresses appearing daily. Which Mistresses are any good? Are any of them going to be compatible with you? Unless you have endless pots of money, it’s not feasible to keep making random bookings, hoping to stumble upon the ‘perfect Mistress’. You have to do your research and choose wisely. Sending emails to all and sundry seems to be a common approach. Amusingly some emails even show all the Mistresses they have been sent to. Yes really! That’s never a good way forward. I suppose the rationale is to see what comes back and pick the Mistress with the best or quickest response. You can just imagine the responses those kinds of emails get! There are numerous Mistress listing sites, but they are just a collection of adverts really, with links to each Mistress’s website. Anyone can advertise themselves in whatever way they please. Or of course, they could get someone else to do this for them. It does show you what’s out there, but is it the best way to choose the right one?

Do some research

A search on Google will result in Mistresses with good online content relating to your search term. This indicates that it is something they have felt worth writing about, which is a good thing. They must have similar interests to you, right? The problem is that it will also show all the websites that have been tweaked by a technician to rank well for that search term. The only way to tell the difference is to have a proper look at their website content. If there’s not much actual content on that subject, then it’s likely to have been engineered. But does this really matter? Google has changed over the past few years and is in the process of weeding out poor content. Its aim is that only websites with good quality content will rank in searches, while those with the ‘old style’ website tweaks will fade away. However, until this process is complete, many of these tweaked websites still rank well. It doesn’t mean those Mistresses aren’t any good at what they do. But it doesn’t mean that they are, either.

A bit more research

Here’s where you have to read, read and read some more. Unless you happen to have met the Mistress, it’s only Her online content that you have to go on. Her website pages, blogs and articles, tweets in Twitter, photographs and film clips. These all add up to create a story of what She is about. This helps you further narrow down your search. At the end of the day, you might not much care for all that. It might only be Her picture gallery and list of things She’s happy to include in a session, that interests you. That is fine if all you want is a pretty Lady to have a BDSM session with. If on the contrary, you seek a skilled professional Dominatrix, you’d be wise to look deeper than that. Anyone can look like a Dominatrix in the right clothing. If She is pretty and ‘your type’, She will look amazing. If that’s all you seek, then look no further. Once you’ve found a London BDSM Mistress whose online presence you like, there’s still more research to do. How will the two of you connect during a session? Does She really do all the things She writes about? Does She do them well…and safely? Did She actually write those words anyway? Read Her testimonials. These are valuable reviews from people just like you. After looking around they chose this Mistress to breathe life into their fantasy. The experience was obviously so good that they then made the effort to write a glowing review. I’ve had many bookings based on the content of one testimonial or another. Sometimes people have gleaned ideas from them and asked for a similar scenario in their session. You can tell a lot from a review. If what you’ve read resonates with you, it’s a sign that you’re off to a good start. If you’re still a bit unsure, why not book a Skype, webcam or phone chat session? If this is offered, it’s a good opportunity to have some one-to-one interaction and see if you have chosen wisely.

Making contact

Once you feel confident that this Mistress is ‘The one’, then it’s time to take the plunge and make direct contact. When contacting a Mistress, you want to make a good first impression. Take the time to see what method of contact is preferred and use that. Don’t text or email simply saying, “Hi” or “Are you free?” Be polite and give some detail about what you’re looking for. If email contact is preferred, then stick with that until advised otherwise. Don’t call because you didn’t get a reply within 5 minutes. Even worse, don’t ring and ring incessantly throughout the day and night. You need to be patient and await a reply. It’s unlikely that a busy Mistress will be sitting by the phone 24/7 responding to calls and emails within seconds. You may strike lucky if you chose the right moment, but if not; wait. It’s always good to have a chat on the phone at some point before the day of the session. A conversation will usually iron out any final hesitancy, on either side. It’s a good opportunity to see how you interact with each other. You may start off nervous but I find people quickly relax and feel reassured during a phone call. I don’t view this as part of the session, unless previously arranged to be so. I talk normally with people when setting up the session and do My best to put them at ease. I find this to be the best way to get a proper understanding of each other. This makes for a far better session when we meet.

Having the best BDSM session of your life

Once the phone call is done, you’ll just have to follow your gut instinct and take the plunge to commit. After all, you can never be entirely sure about anything in life, until it happens. But with a good level of research, you have far more likelihood of a truly amazing session. Take the time to research and you will find the best London BDSM Mistress for you! Randomly choosing Mistresses based on a set of photographs alone, can seriously end in bitter disappointment. You have been warned.
Ballbusting extravaganza by Ballbusting London Mistress Lady Godiva

Ballbusting extravaganza by Ballbusting London Mistress Lady Godiva

What do I like about ballbusting?  Well what is there not to like?  With My years of martial arts training I have a strong, swift kick that surprises many a sub, plus a grip of iron that should truly terrify you.  Think not of Me as a weak, pathetic female!  You have been warned!

I see ballbusting as a fine art rather than brute force and ignorance.  Punches and kicks need to be well aimed or many will hit the thigh and other areas, missing that ‘sweet spot’ only to be found within a scrotal sack.  This really doesn’t have the same effect at all.

Although I can play hard – very hard – I can also gauge exactly how hard to play when dealing with a cautious newbie who is just trying things out.  This is very important so as not to put someone off; spoiling all the fun and enjoyment they could be getting.  Just enough to test the limits without taking things too far.

London ballbusting MistressI’ve been perfecting My kicks and punches for years.  Many an hour spent hitting pads and targets.  Often human, moving targets which is so much more fun.  It takes skill to be able to punch and kick with power, especially from a short distance.  This has proved very useful particularly in the small confines of some dungeons I know, but also when someone is trussed into a position where access to the vital area is somewhat limited.  I can simply exert a sudden burst of pressure through the ball of My foot, without even needing to break contact, and still end up packing a strong kick.  I delight in the look on the face of My victims with that trick!

I’m always on the lookout for a new workout to keep fit and ballbusting fits right in there alongside aerobics and bootcamp.  Especially when I’m lucky enough to be face to face with a painslut that just wants Me to keep going.  Oh did I mention that I never tire?  Well I don’t.  My stamina levels are very high and I love to work up a good sweat.  So if you really want to test your limits, then you’ve come to the right place.

But it’s not just punches and kicks I that are My specialities.  Once I get hold of your dangly bits there’s no escape.  With just My hands you’ll be lifted up onto tippy toes, desperately trying to get higher to lessen the pain.  All the while listening to Me laughing as I watch your pathetic attempt to make things easier for yourself.

I love to stretch, twist, pull and squeeze.  Like putty in My hands…oh joy!  This is all without the need for any equipment whatsoever.  Once gadgets are added to the mix, along with My furtive imagination, you’d better break out the smelling salts because you’re in for a rough ride.

London ballbusting MistressI’m always on the lookout for a new way to bust balls.  There are many things designed for such fun, but I like the use of simple household implements too, such as barbeque tongs…snip, snap.  Every time I go shopping I spot something.  Nut crackers, staplers, bendy rulers, golf balls (good target practice), elastic bands, meat tenderisers, ping pong bats, wood clamps, the list goes on.  A length of twine always comes in handy, oh and the things I can do with a rolling pin!!  Where’s My apron?

I have a particularly evil pair of boots that I like to wear on occasion, but I must say one of My most powerful kicks wearing those would not be for the faint-hearted.  Anyone care to try?

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Lady Godiva is a ballbusting London Mistress who holds most of Her sessions in and around London and Kent

How I became a Dominatrix by Lady Godiva

How I became a Dominatrix by Lady Godiva

I’m often asked how I got into BDSM and more importantly how I became a Dominatrix.  Are you kneeling comfortably?  Then I’ll begin…

I grew up quite a tomboy; assertive, full of energy, competitive and always beating the boys at whatever I did (pun intended of course!)  This continued right up to puberty when I suddenly discovered the benefits of being beautiful, with big blue eyes and long blonde hair…and all the other attributes that a young woman finds herself equipped with.  I then had more tools at My disposal to get whatever I wanted.  Doors opened and a light bulb switched on.  I no longer had to use my supple strength and sheer determination to get My way.  I could just demand it with ease.

It was some while before I realised that I was a Dominatrix in the making.  Although I think everyone around Me did!  Young men running errands for Me, buying Me shoes and massaging My feet.  Older men treating Me like royalty and catering to My every whim, however extravagant or demanding.  Well that’s what happens when you ‘come of age’ I thought.  Until I realised that My friends weren’t getting the same treatment from their boyfriends, let alone people they’d only just met.

My fetish for corsets, leather, PVC and high heels began in My teens, when I’d use any excuse to dress up.  It even became a friendly joke amongst My friends that I had so often made the mistake of thinking a party was fancy dress when it wasn’t.  It was no mistake!  It just made it easier for Me to brazenly turn up to a run-of-the-mill vanilla party dressed as a scantily clad Amazon warrior, or a female assassin in a cat suit.  I so enjoyed the looks on people’s faces as I walked into the room.

A friend once mentioned that they had meant to book a Kissagram for someone’s birthday gathering in a pub that evening, but had left it too late.  Without a moment’s hesitation I’d offered Myself up for the task, delighted at the opportunity to wear a corset in public just for the Hell of it…yet again!  As you can see from the smiles and laughter all round, this brightened up what would have been a very dull evening!

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It was only a matter of time before I took things to the next level and began experimenting with ‘unusual’ sex toys and various implements designed to inflict such delicious pain.  To become an expert however, takes patience, determination, research, training and years of practice.

I always immerse Myself totally in everything I do, ensuring that I become an expert.  I hate doing things by half measures.  I’d rather do something properly or not at all.

Anyone can ‘have a go’ at being a Dominatrix.  Flicking a whip around and hitting in all the wrong places, without really knowing what they are doing, or why.  Many newbies think that just as long as they are shouting at someone and inflicting pain, they are being a Dominatrix.  How wrong they can be.

A session without proper planning lacks atmosphere, losing that spark that makes it a magical experience.  Doing things incorrectly drastically changes any pain sensations from pleasure to something truly unpleasant and quite frankly a complete turn off.  How disappointing after all the build-up of excitement and anticipation before the session started.  Worse still, not knowing what one is doing can cause permanent damage or even death.

I have taken great pride in learning these skills to perfection; enjoying every step of My incredible journey.  Oh the joy of finally turning My passion into a profession has been immense.   I have to keep pinching Myself, but I much prefer inflicting that kind of thing on other people!



Dominatrix Lady Godiva is a BDSM London Mistress who holds most of Her sessions in and around London and Kent