How to choose the best London BDSM Mistress

How to choose the best London BDSM Mistress

Choosing the best London BDSM Mistress

Where to start?

You want to book a session with a London BDSM Mistress. How do you know which one? There are so many to choose from. The list seems to change all the time, with new Mistresses appearing daily. Which Mistresses are any good? Are any of them going to be compatible with you? Unless you have endless pots of money, it’s not feasible to keep making random bookings, hoping to stumble upon the ‘perfect Mistress’. You have to do your research and choose wisely. Sending emails to all and sundry seems to be a common approach. Amusingly some emails even show all the Mistresses they have been sent to. Yes really! That’s never a good way forward. I suppose the rationale is to see what comes back and pick the Mistress with the best or quickest response. You can just imagine the responses those kinds of emails get! There are numerous Mistress listing sites, but they are just a collection of adverts really, with links to each Mistress’s website. Anyone can advertise themselves in whatever way they please. Or of course, they could get someone else to do this for them. It does show you what’s out there, but is it the best way to choose the right one?

Do some research

A search on Google will result in Mistresses with good online content relating to your search term. This indicates that it is something they have felt worth writing about, which is a good thing. They must have similar interests to you, right? The problem is that it will also show all the websites that have been tweaked by a technician to rank well for that search term. The only way to tell the difference is to have a proper look at their website content. If there’s not much actual content on that subject, then it’s likely to have been engineered. But does this really matter? Google has changed over the past few years and is in the process of weeding out poor content. Its aim is that only websites with good quality content will rank in searches, while those with the ‘old style’ website tweaks will fade away. However, until this process is complete, many of these tweaked websites still rank well. It doesn’t mean those Mistresses aren’t any good at what they do. But it doesn’t mean that they are, either.

A bit more research

Here’s where you have to read, read and read some more. Unless you happen to have met the Mistress, it’s only Her online content that you have to go on. Her website pages, blogs and articles, tweets in Twitter, photographs and film clips. These all add up to create a story of what She is about. This helps you further narrow down your search. At the end of the day, you might not much care for all that. It might only be Her picture gallery and list of things She’s happy to include in a session, that interests you. That is fine if all you want is a pretty Lady to have a BDSM session with. If on the contrary, you seek a skilled professional Dominatrix, you’d be wise to look deeper than that. Anyone can look like a Dominatrix in the right clothing. If She is pretty and ‘your type’, She will look amazing. If that’s all you seek, then look no further. Once you’ve found a London BDSM Mistress whose online presence you like, there’s still more research to do. How will the two of you connect during a session? Does She really do all the things She writes about? Does She do them well…and safely? Did She actually write those words anyway? Read Her testimonials. These are valuable reviews from people just like you. After looking around they chose this Mistress to breathe life into their fantasy. The experience was obviously so good that they then made the effort to write a glowing review. I’ve had many bookings based on the content of one testimonial or another. Sometimes people have gleaned ideas from them and asked for a similar scenario in their session. You can tell a lot from a review. If what you’ve read resonates with you, it’s a sign that you’re off to a good start. If you’re still a bit unsure, why not book a Skype, webcam or phone chat session? If this is offered, it’s a good opportunity to have some one-to-one interaction and see if you have chosen wisely.

Making contact

Once you feel confident that this Mistress is ‘The one’, then it’s time to take the plunge and make direct contact. When contacting a Mistress, you want to make a good first impression. Take the time to see what method of contact is preferred and use that. Don’t text or email simply saying, “Hi” or “Are you free?” Be polite and give some detail about what you’re looking for. If email contact is preferred, then stick with that until advised otherwise. Don’t call because you didn’t get a reply within 5 minutes. Even worse, don’t ring and ring incessantly throughout the day and night. You need to be patient and await a reply. It’s unlikely that a busy Mistress will be sitting by the phone 24/7 responding to calls and emails within seconds. You may strike lucky if you chose the right moment, but if not; wait. It’s always good to have a chat on the phone at some point before the day of the session. A conversation will usually iron out any final hesitancy, on either side. It’s a good opportunity to see how you interact with each other. You may start off nervous but I find people quickly relax and feel reassured during a phone call. I don’t view this as part of the session, unless previously arranged to be so. I talk normally with people when setting up the session and do My best to put them at ease. I find this to be the best way to get a proper understanding of each other. This makes for a far better session when we meet.

Having the best BDSM session of your life

Once the phone call is done, you’ll just have to follow your gut instinct and take the plunge to commit. After all, you can never be entirely sure about anything in life, until it happens. But with a good level of research, you have far more likelihood of a truly amazing session. Take the time to research and you will find the best London BDSM Mistress for you! Randomly choosing Mistresses based on a set of photographs alone, can seriously end in bitter disappointment. You have been warned.

BDSM Mistress Lady Godiva High Class Dominatrix

So who really is Lady Godiva, the BDSM Mistress?  I’m a classy, sassy kind of a Lady who happens to have a penchant for BDSM.  Can’t help it, it’s just the way I am.  That’s how I ended up becoming a Professional Dominatrix and BDSM Mistress.  It’s the career of My dreams!  I’m nearly black and blue for pinching Myself! No, I’m not really covered in bruises!!

I’m from a damn good background and know how to present Myself socially.  Take Me to dinner and you’ll find out.  If that scares you, then it’s a one-to-one you want.  All you have to do is go to My contact page and I’ll set you up with a very private session, where you can gently and slowly explore your desires.  Discretion is assured and I’ll always respect your limits.

However, if you’re feeling a tad more adventurous….

Why not take Me to a social or work occasion?  Believe Me, I can blend into the situation so that no one would ever know.  Pass Me off as your daughter or trophy wife, whether you’re an older gent or a younger man…and not necessarily in that order!  That kind of evening would be hilarious for both of us!  I’d have such fun with it and never give the game away.  I can dodge social bullets with ease. Obviously you’ll want to get to know Me before embarking on such a maverick evening, but we could both have such a laugh with it.  Add BDSM play to the mix and what more could you want?  This is something I do with My regular clients and it has proved very popular indeed.

Perhaps it’s more of an outdoor experience you’re after.  Well I’m totally at home in the great outdoors.  I love nature and totally get the buzz of outside play.  It can be very erotic, especially combined with the fear of being caught in the act.  I’ve been known to tie My slaves to a tree while I give them a good beating.  Don’t fret, I will release you afterwards.  I’m skilled at choosing the perfect location so as not to get caught, but just supposing it were to happen I can quickly cover you up and spin a yarn to get us out of immediate trouble, while we make our quick escape.  All very hilarious while we reflect on it over a tipple in a nearby pub or restaurant.  Those are the priceless moments that keep us all alive!

Are you up for it? Just let Me know and I’ll make all the necessary arrangements 😉

Punished by Mistress

“You’ve been a very naughty boy and you deserve to be punished by Mistress.” is all he could remember Her saying.  He’d been alone in the room only a few minutes, but it seemed like a lifetime.  “Wait in there and think about what you’ve done.”  he heard through the closed door.  As instructed, he’d lowered his trousers and pants and was bent over the whipping bench.  So many thoughts raced through his mind.  “What will She do to me?”  “Will I stand the pain?”  “How long will I have to wait?”  “Will I enjoy it and get an erection?  Oh how embarrassing!  Will I be punished for that too?”

His heart raced as he wondered if he’d be lucky enough to be bent over Her knee for a spanking.  “Will I manage to catch a glimpse of Her thighs?”  “Would She notice if I touched one of them ‘by accident’?”

The last time they’d met was almost a month ago.  He’d been in heaven and was so lost in thoughts and dreams, that when She spoke it had almost made him jump out of his skin.  “What do you think you are doing?” She demanded, in a tone that reminded him of his strict headmistress from years ago.  “Oh, erm, n-n-nothing Mistress!” he stuttered, but She was not convinced at all.  “You are not to look up My skirt when you are on your knees!”  “Oh no Mistress,” he said, “I, I, I wasn’t.  I…”  “Yes you were and it will not do at all, will it?”

He knew the look She was giving him.  The stare from which there was no escape; but he dared not look up at Her now.  “No Mistress.  Sorry Mistress.”  “Lying to Me will not be tolerated!”  She exclaimed, in a quiet but very stern voice, leaving no room for manoeuvre.   “I’m sorry Mistress!” he said, keeping his head bowed respectfully.

The door suddenly opened and in She came.  He dared not look at Her, despite every fibre in his being begging him to do so.  She walked around him saying nothing.  He felt so exposed and vulnerable.  His body started to tremble.  “Have you thought about what you did?” She asked.  He wasn’t sure how he should answer, so in a very quiet voice he begged, “Mistress…”  “Speak up!” She demanded, “I asked you a question.”  “Yes Mistress, I have and I know I’ve been a naughty boy and deserve to be punished.”  “Good,” She said, “and punished you will be!”

To be continued…

(The above scene refers to consenting adults over the age of 18)

BDSM Sessions with London Mistress

BDSM Sessions with London Mistress

BDSM sessions with London Mistress Lady Godiva

BDSM Mistress London“What will happen to me?”  I hear you ask.  “How do I know if I’ll like BDSM?”  “How should I approach Her?”  Well much of whether this BDSM session ends up being a successful encounter depends entirely upon you.

I like a nice, polite email enquiry to start with.  That always gets My attention far better than something rude or offhand.  Make a point of reading My website, as it details the best way to get in touch.  There’s even a contact form containing questions, so half the thinking is already done for you.  My website clearly states that I do not offer sexual services, so can you imagine My disdain when I find that someone has obviously not bothered to read this?

So you’ve finally plucked up the courage to fill out the contact form, or you’ve drafted a courteous email asking Me how I am and outlining your interests.  What next?  I’ll tell you what next.  You wait.  Occasionally I will reply immediately.  That’s when you’ve been lucky and found Me catching up on My emails right now.  Usually it will be the same day that I reply, but sometimes it takes a few days, as I have a very interesting and busy life.  Patience is a virtue.

However, having said that, I do understand the anguish of anticipation.  Sometimes it can feel as though one will burst if a reply does not come soon.  It has been known for emails to lurk in my junk folder and be unseen for a few weeks.  For that reason I will allow you to follow up on your email enquiry if you have not heard from Me within a couple of days.  I will not punish you unduly for this 😉

I read your email and hopefully it excites Me enough to consider having a session with you.  If you have put your phone number in the email, rest assured I will not ring it unless you have let Me know a convenient day and time to do so.  I will email to ask you for further details.  We will then agree upon a date, time and location.

I like to ask for a £50 deposit to secure the booking.  I’ll then send you My mobile number and details of the location.  I like to have a chat over the ‘phone a day or so before the BDSM session, as I feel both of us will benefit from this.

You will arrive at the location at the agreed time.  We have a pre-session chat to settle the nerves and make sure everything is OK, then you’ll change and the session starts.  Afterwards there will be time for a chat about how it all went.  “But what happens between getting changed and the after-session chat?” you ask.

Foot fetish Mistress LondonThe session itself will last an hour or however long you have booked.  Every session is different.  You may have provided copious details of your interests and how you envisage the session to unfold.  This can work well and many very happy slaves have headed out the door after such a session.  But don’t try to ‘top from the bottom’ thinking that I need to be instructed and manipulated, like a puppet on a string.  It won’t work as I will spot this and will reprimand you!  On the other hand, sensible suggestions are welcome.

“Oh how on Earth am I going to ever find the right balance in BDSM?” you cry.  Ask Me.  It’s that simple.  Right from the start you have that opportunity.  In the email conversations and especially during the pre-session chat.  I’ll soon let you know if something is not right.

BDSM Mistress London
I’ve held all sorts of BDSM sessions from abductions to foot and boot worship, feminisation and housework, to total deprivation and torture.  Obviously the extreme sessions are by request.  I wouldn’t dream of totally surprising a complete newbie novice with an unplanned needle play session.  Nor would I use My cane on someone who says they can’t handle any kind of pain.

BDSM and Ballbusting Mistress LondonIf you’re stuck for ideas, you can of course just leave the whole thing to Me.  Let Me know 3 things you like or like the sound of, and 3 things you hate or really don’t wish to try.  I’ll work out the rest.  I have a talent for judging the dynamics and situation.  So although you’ll be pushed a little out of your comfort zone (and wouldn’t you be disappointed if you weren’t) I’ll not push too far during our first meeting.  Well at least I’ll try not to.

I must confess it hasn’t gone perfectly every single time.  There was a slave who’d asked for corporal punishment and role play.  He was so traumatised being interrogated by Me as a military officer, that he fled after just 10 minutes.  I’d not had a chance to even start on the corporal punishment part.  How disappointing!  Mind you, by 9.30 that evening he emailed to book another session, which went very well by the way…just with no role-play included that time.

I have some special regulars who return time and time again.  I enjoying building the relationship so that each session grows and flourishes.  I know them inside and out…quite literally in some cases!

I can be kind, but only where kindness is appropriate.  I have no patience for brattish behaviour.  Sulk at your own peril.  I can be understanding, but not when you are being over demanding.  I can be forgiving, but not when you are being petulant.  I can be sensuous and seductive, but not when you are being needy or overbearing.  I can be everything you ever wished for, or I can be your worst nightmare….the choice is yours and Mine but definitely not in that order.

Are you ready?


Lady Godiva holds most of Her BDSM sessions at the Hoxton Dungeon Suite, Better Than a Bed and two private dungeons – one between The Oval and Brixton, and the other not far from Dartford in Kent.  Other locations can be arranged.

Foot worship – serve your Mistress

Foot worship – serve your Mistress

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I am one of the lucky ones, blessed with the tools to get what I want.  Being on the receiving end of foot worship makes Me tick and I have perfect feet that just demand attention.  A match made in heaven if you ask Me!

Well let Me tell you, foot worship means everything to Me!  It all starts with the feet.  When your gaze dares to move from floor to foot, then further.  Who among you immediately returns to the foot, or at least lingers there far longer that those who dare to continue up the leg and beyond?  Who indeed?  You know who you are! Ha ha, guilty as charged.  You are a foot worshipper and proud you should be.

foot worship, foot fetish, London MistressBut while you are worshipping away, lost in a dream, I am in heaven.  I long for the gentle caresses, licks and kisses to foot, shoe and boot alike.  From the first touch, I feel a sense of euphoria that transcends all thought.  I too am lost in a dream.  It is pure service as far as I am concerned.  A service I could happily receive forever.

In the past I’ve had people apologise profusely for their dog licking My feet.  I’d absentmindedly say, “Oh don’t worry, I’m not bothered.” Secretly wishing for it never to stop.  How disappointed I’d be when the embarrassed owner would whisk their dog away.  I now have no remorse or guilt over such things!  A human foot worshipper is preferable though, as you can tell them for how long, where and when to worship.  Plus there is the added bonus of massage, which takes things to a new level altogether.

The feeling of being pampered is absolute.  If I could bottle that feeling I’d out market any massage parlour.  Just one sniff of the prized essence would be all anyone needed to feel totally relaxed and healed.  Works for Me every time!

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Lady Godiva is a foot worship London Mistress who holds most of Her sessions in and around London and Kent