Even the letters BDSM mean different things to different people.  Some say it’s strictly ‘bondage, discipline, sadism and masochism’, while others insist the D is for dominance and the S for submission.  I don’t feel it really matters all that much, as BDSM seems to have become a word in its own right.  Reference to BDSM is fairly commonplace these days, even more so since the recent popularity of ‘50 Shades of Grey’ in today’s mainstream society.

To Me BDSM is a delicious combination of many things, all wrapped up in a spicy, electric blanket of fun.   It’s all things kink…whatever that means to anyone.  For some that means an occasional buttock spank while making love; while for others it’s being locked naked and alone in a dark cell for hours, after a cruel beating.

I see it as truly limitless.  An infinite expanse of imagination and human consciousness.  But to Me, most of all it’s fun.  I do love a sense of humour and a rapport with My clients, even if this is just in the pre-session chat.  Don’t get Me wrong, I can be very stern and serious in a session, but I have also had many occasions where all that can be heard is laughter from both / all of us.  Being too serious just for the sake of it isn’t what it’s all about to Me. 

Different strokes for different folks.  Something that makes one person reel back in horror, is the ultimate pleasure to another.  Take foot fetish and foot worship, for instance.  Some people cannot abide anyone touching their feet, or worse still the thought of touching someone else’s.  Yet for a huge percentage of people, foot worship is something they have craved and obsessed about since very early childhood.  They may not necessarily refer to it as ‘fun’, but certainly very a pleasurable experience indeed.  Sacred moments when they feel truly at service to their Mistress.

Mention ‘ballbusting’ to most people and they wince at the mere thought…be they male or female.  Whereas this is a very popular kink with online forums and interest groups worldwide.   I’m sure there are far more mainstream ‘vanilla’ types that would really enjoy it, if only they allowed themselves to try.

However much I already know about BDSM, as with everything in life, there is always so much more to learn.  That really keeps the whole thing alive for Me.  I’ve always enjoyed learning new skills and expanding My experiences, and love hearing about unusual kinks and interests.  I particularly enjoy the part I play in enabling someone to live their dreams.

So what is it?  It’s the dynamic between Domme/Dom and sub (D/s) which must be respected and tended well, in order for it to flourish.  It’s the skipped heartbeat and sparkle in the eye when the playroom door opens; the anticipation and yearning that comes from whispering your interests to an understanding ‘other’.  And it’s the feeling of completeness when you know that you have been true to yourself.

So come hither and whisper in My ear.  I’m always listening!

Lady Godiva is a BDSM London Mistress who holds most of Her sessions in and around London and Kent