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BDSM Sessions with London Mistress

by Lady Godiva | 23 Oct 2015 | BDSM

BDSM sessions with London Mistress Lady Godiva

“What will happen to me?” I hear you ask. “How do I know if I’ll like BDSM?” “How should I approach Her?” Well much of whether this BDSM session ends up being a successful encounter depends entirely upon you.

I like a nice, polite email enquiry to start with. That always gets My attention far better than something rude or offhand. Make a point of reading My website, as it details the best way to get in touch. There’s even a contact form containing questions, so half the thinking is already done for you. My website clearly states that I do not offer sexual services, so can you imagine My disdain when I find that someone has obviously not bothered to read this?

So you’ve finally plucked up the courage to fill out the contact form, or you’ve drafted a courteous email asking Me how I am and outlining your interests. What next? I’ll tell you what next. You wait. Occasionally I will reply immediately. That’s when you’ve been lucky and found Me catching up on My emails right now. Usually it will be the same day that I reply, but sometimes it takes a few days, as I have a very interesting and busy life. Patience is a virtue.

However, having said that, I do understand the anguish of anticipation. Sometimes it can feel as though one will burst if a reply does not come soon. It has been known for emails to lurk in my junk folder and be unseen for a few weeks. For that reason I will allow you to follow up on your email enquiry if you have not heard from Me within a couple of days. I will not punish you unduly for this 😉

I read your email and hopefully it excites Me enough to consider having a session with you. If you have put your phone number in the email, rest assured I will not ring it unless you have let Me know a convenient day and time to do so. I will email to ask you for further details. We will then agree upon a date, time and location.

I like to ask for a £50 deposit to secure the booking. I’ll then send you My mobile number and details of the location. I like to have a chat over the ‘phone a day or so before the BDSM session, as I feel both of us will benefit from this.

You will arrive at the location at the agreed time. We have a pre-session chat to settle the nerves and make sure everything is OK, then you’ll change and the session starts. Afterwards there will be time for a chat about how it all went. “But what happens between getting changed and the after-session chat?” you ask.

The session itself will last an hour or however long you have booked. Every session is different. You may have provided copious details of your interests and how you envisage the session to unfold. This can work well and many very happy slaves have headed out the door after such a session. But don’t try to ‘top from the bottom’ thinking that I need to be instructed and manipulated, like a puppet on a string. It won’t work as I will spot this and will reprimand you! On the other hand, sensible suggestions are welcome.

“Oh how on Earth am I going to ever find the right balance in BDSM?” you cry. Ask Me. It’s that simple. Right from the start you have that opportunity. In the email conversations and especially during the pre-session chat. I’ll soon let you know if something is not right.

I’ve held all sorts of BDSM sessions from abductions to foot and boot worship, feminisation and housework, to total deprivation and torture. Obviously the extreme sessions are by request. I wouldn’t dream of totally surprising a complete newbie novice with an unplanned needle play session. Nor would I use My cane on someone who says they can’t handle any kind of pain.

If you’re stuck for ideas, you can of course just leave the whole thing to Me. Let Me know 3 things you like or like the sound of, and 3 things you hate or really don’t wish to try. I’ll work out the rest. I have a talent for judging the dynamics and situation. So although you’ll be pushed a little out of your comfort zone (and wouldn’t you be disappointed if you weren’t) I’ll not push too far during our first meeting. Well at least I’ll try not to.

I must confess it hasn’t gone perfectly every single time. There was a slave who’d asked for corporal punishment and role play. He was so traumatised being interrogated by Me as a military officer, that he fled after just 10 minutes. I’d not had a chance to even start on the corporal punishment part. How disappointing! Mind you, by 9.30 that evening he emailed to book another session, which went very well by the way…just with no role-play included that time.

I have some special regulars who return time and time again. I enjoying building the relationship so that each session grows and flourishes. I know them inside and out…quite literally in some cases!

I can be kind, but only where kindness is appropriate. I have no patience for brattish behaviour. Sulk at your own peril. I can be understanding, but not when you are being over demanding. I can be forgiving, but not when you are being petulant. I can be sensuous and seductive, but not when you are being needy or overbearing. I can be everything you ever wished for, or I can be your worst nightmare….the choice is yours and Mine but definitely not in that order.

Are you ready?

Lady Godiva holds most of Her BDSM sessions at the Hoxton Dungeon Suite, Better Than a Bed and two private dungeons – one between The Oval and Brixton, and the other not far from Dartford in Kent. Other locations can be arranged.

How I became a Dominatrix by Lady Godiva

by Lady Godiva | 12 Feb 2015 | being a Professional Mistress

I’m often asked how I got into BDSM and more importantly how I became a Dominatrix. Are you kneeling comfortably? Then I’ll begin…

I grew up quite a tomboy; assertive, full of energy, competitive and always beating the boys at whatever I did (pun intended of course!) This continued right up to puberty when I suddenly discovered the benefits of being beautiful, with big blue eyes and long blonde hair…and all the other attributes that a young woman finds herself equipped with. I then had more tools at My disposal to get whatever I wanted. Doors opened and a light bulb switched on. I no longer had to use my supple strength and sheer determination to get My way. I could just demand it with ease.

It was some while before I realised that I was a Dominatrix in the making. Although I think everyone around Me did! Young men running errands for Me, buying Me shoes and massaging My feet. Older men treating Me like royalty and catering to My every whim, however extravagant or demanding. Well that’s what happens when you ‘come of age’ I thought. Until I realised that My friends weren’t getting the same treatment from their boyfriends, let alone people they’d only just met.

My fetish for corsets, leather, PVC and high heels began in My teens, when I’d use any excuse to dress up. It even became a friendly joke amongst My friends that I had so often made the mistake of thinking a party was fancy dress when it wasn’t. It was no mistake! It just made it easier for Me to brazenly turn up to a run-of-the-mill vanilla party dressed as a scantily clad Amazon warrior, or a female assassin in a cat suit. I so enjoyed the looks on people’s faces as I walked into the room.

A friend once mentioned that they had meant to book a Kissagram for someone’s birthday gathering in a pub that evening, but had left it too late. Without a moment’s hesitation I’d offered Myself up for the task, delighted at the opportunity to wear a corset in public just for the Hell of it…yet again! As you can see from the smiles and laughter all round, this brightened up what would have been a very dull evening!

It was only a matter of time before I took things to the next level and began experimenting with ‘unusual’ sex toys and various implements designed to inflict such delicious pain. To become an expert however, takes patience, determination, research, training and years of practice.

I always immerse Myself totally in everything I do, ensuring that I become an expert. I hate doing things by half measures. I’d rather do something properly or not at all.

Anyone can ‘have a go’ at being a Dominatrix. Flicking a whip around and hitting in all the wrong places, without really knowing what they are doing, or why. Many newbies think that just as long as they are shouting at someone and inflicting pain, they are being a Dominatrix. How wrong they can be.

A session without proper planning lacks atmosphere, losing that spark that makes it a magical experience. Doing things incorrectly drastically changes any pain sensations from pleasure to something truly unpleasant and quite frankly a complete turn off. How disappointing after all the build-up of excitement and anticipation before the session started. Worse still, not knowing what one is doing can cause permanent damage or even death.

I have taken great pride in learning these skills to perfection; enjoying every step of My incredible journey. Oh the joy of finally turning My passion into a profession has been immense. I have to keep pinching Myself, but I much prefer inflicting that kind of thing on other people!

Dominatrix Lady Godiva is a BDSM London Mistress who holds most of Her sessions in and around London and Kent