Choosing the best London BDSM Mistress

Where to start?

You want to book a session with a London BDSM Mistress. How do you know which one? There are so many to choose from. The list seems to change all the time, with new Mistresses appearing daily. Which Mistresses are any good? Are any of them going to be compatible with you?

Unless you have endless pots of money, it’s not feasible to keep making random bookings, hoping to stumble upon the ‘perfect Mistress’. You have to do your research and choose wisely.

Sending emails to all and sundry seems to be a common approach. Amusingly some emails even show all the Mistresses they have been sent to. Yes really! That’s never a good way forward. I suppose the rationale is to see what comes back and pick the Mistress with the best or quickest response. You can just imagine the responses those kinds of emails get!

There are numerous Mistress listing sites, but they are just a collection of adverts really, with links to each Mistress’s website. Anyone can advertise themselves in whatever way they please. Or of course, they could get someone else to do this for them. It does show you what’s out there, but is it the best way to choose the right one?

Do some research

A search on Google will result in Mistresses with good online content relating to your search term. This indicates that it is something they have felt worth writing about, which is a good thing. They must have similar interests to you, right?

The problem is that it will also show all the websites that have been tweaked by a technician to rank well for that search term. The only way to tell the difference is to have a proper look at their website content. If there’s not much actual content on that subject, then it’s likely to have been engineered. But does this really matter?

Google has changed over the past few years and is in the process of weeding out poor content. Its aim is that only websites with good quality content will rank in searches, while those with the ‘old style’ website tweaks will fade away. However, until this process is complete, many of these tweaked websites still rank well. It doesn’t mean those Mistresses aren’t any good at what they do. But it doesn’t mean that they are, either.

A bit more research

Here’s where you have to read, read and read some more. Unless you happen to have met the Mistress, it’s only Her online content that you have to go on. Her website pages, blogs and articles, tweets in Twitter, photographs and film clips. These all add up to create a story of what She is about. This helps you further narrow down your search.

At the end of the day, you might not much care for all that. It might only be Her picture gallery and list of things She’s happy to include in a session, that interests you. That is fine if all you want is a pretty Lady to have a BDSM session with. If on the contrary, you seek a skilled professional Dominatrix, you’d be wise to look deeper than that. Anyone can look like a Dominatrix in the right clothing. If She is pretty and ‘your type’, She will look amazing. If that’s all you seek, then look no further.

Once you’ve found a London BDSM Mistress whose online presence you like, there’s still more research to do. How will the two of you connect during a session? Does She really do all the things She writes about? Does She do them well…and safely? Did She actually write those words anyway?

Read Her testimonials. These are valuable reviews from people just like you. After looking around they chose this Mistress to breathe life into their fantasy. The experience was obviously so good that they then made the effort to write a glowing review. I’ve had many bookings based on the content of one testimonial or another. Sometimes people have gleaned ideas from them and asked for a similar scenario in their session. You can tell a lot from a review.

If what you’ve read resonates with you, it’s a sign that you’re off to a good start. If you’re still a bit unsure, why not book a Skype, webcam or phone chat session? If this is offered, it’s a good opportunity to have some one-to-one interaction and see if you have chosen wisely.

Making contact

Once you feel confident that this Mistress is ‘The one’, then it’s time to take the plunge and make direct contact.

When contacting a Mistress, you want to make a good first impression. Take the time to see what method of contact is preferred and use that. Don’t text or email simply saying, “Hi” or “Are you free?” Be polite and give some detail about what you’re looking for.

If email contact is preferred, then stick with that until advised otherwise. Don’t call because you didn’t get a reply within 5 minutes. Even worse, don’t ring and ring incessantly throughout the day and night. You need to be patient and await a reply. It’s unlikely that a busy Mistress will be sitting by the phone 24/7 responding to calls and emails within seconds. You may strike lucky if you chose the right moment, but if not; wait.

It’s always good to have a chat on the phone at some point before the day of the session. A conversation will usually iron out any final hesitancy, on either side. It’s a good opportunity to see how you interact with each other.

You may start off nervous but I find people quickly relax and feel reassured during a phone call. I don’t view this as part of the session, unless previously arranged to be so. I talk normally with people when setting up the session and do My best to put them at ease. I find this to be the best way to get a proper understanding of each other. This makes for a far better session when we meet.

Having the best BDSM session of your life

Once the phone call is done, you’ll just have to follow your gut instinct and take the plunge to commit. After all, you can never be entirely sure about anything in life, until it happens. But with a good level of research, you have far more likelihood of a truly amazing session.

Take the time to research and you will find the best London BDSM Mistress for you! Randomly choosing Mistresses based on a set of photographs alone, can seriously end in bitter disappointment. You have been warned.